Chapter 7: Preparing for a medically assisted death

How much do I tell them?

I've been there
Honor recounts how her children's grandfather explained to them him getting MAID.(3:22)Video transcript
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The expert says
Tara Noble MSW, RSW explains how telling children will help them spend meaningful time with their loved one(3:22)Video transcript
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We asked the kids what they wanted to know.Maria asked all sorts of questions. Jose only wanted to know when it would happen. After our first conversation, we talked with them separately so we could give as much or as little detail as they each wanted. 

Follow their lead

Some children are very interested in what will take place to bring about a medically assisted death. Others don’t want these details. Ask your child what information they want. If they're curious, it’s best to provide them with the facts rather than leaving the specifics to their imagination or the misinformation of someone else. 

Regardless of how much detail your child wants, reassure them that a medically assisted death is painless and tends to be very peaceful. 

Involve a health care provider

You may find it challenging to prepare children for a death with medical assistance when you aren’t sure what to expect. Talk with your health care provider to learn more. Your child may like to join you for this conversation, or they may prefer you share what you learn with them. Some children may prefer to speak to a health care provider by themselves.