Chapter 5: Other considerations after student death

Condolences and paying last respects

What the educator says
Sue Massaad, elementary school principal, talks about educators and adminitrators attending funerals. (3:22)Video transcript

“It was appropriate and appreciated by the family that our class attended the funeral. But most of the kids haven’t been to one before and didn’t know what to expect”. - Teacher 

Students often want to express their support for others who are grieving, including the family of the student who died; but many students don’t know how to do this. You can help by offering general information on topics such as:

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Topic 1



What to say to the family and friends of the student who died.


Topic 2



What to expect at a funeral service, visitation, or other ceremony, including cultural variations and expectations.


Topic 3



How to write a card, letter, email or text of condolence.



See also:For more information about how to help children prepare to attend funerals, memorials, and other ceremonies, see:  

Funerals, memorials, and other rituals

Attending funerals, memorials, and other rituals

Preparing children for funerals and memorials